Have you ever blamed your circumstances on your spouse, your partner, the weather? I know I have. It’s easy to blame someone else or outside factors rather than looking inside. I read a book recently which really made me wake up and take note, so thought it might help to share the pertinent message with you too.
If you want to see the actual person behind your current circumstances, your current financial condition, your career, your health and your relationship successes or failures, just stand in front of a mirror. Who do you see? Yes it’s YOU!
The harsh reality is that you are responsible for the circumstances in your life right now, whether they are good or bad. You are completely responsible. The way you think and the choices you made in the past have created the circumstances you find yourself in now.
If your life is an outstanding success you are responsible for that result. If it isn’t you are also responsible. So take the credit good or bad!
To be fair, your parents, society, culture, religion and upbringing have contributed to the beliefs you hold and have brought you here today and you are the one who has directly or indirectly created the world you live in. It is you who accepted the job you currently live in and you who decided to stay in it, even if you realised it wasn’t your passion.
It is you who decided to regularly eat junk food and it was your arm that pushed the junk food into your mouth. You were the one who chose not to exercise regularly and it was you who has chosen the self destructive habits like smoking, drinking or using drugs.
It was you who didn’t say ‘No’ to the person who asked you to do things you didn’t want to do, it was you who decided to trust the person who let you down and it was you who refused to put boundaries on your children, relatives or people who cause you grief in your life.
If you have employees or customers who test your patience or friends who are selfish, you have chosen them in your life. If the people around you make you unhappy it’s not their fault – it’s yours. They are in your personal or professional life because you drew them to you and you let them stay. You made the choices, you thought the thoughts and you created the circumstances you are now in. And it is you who is making the excuses to yourself and to others about why you are where you are in your life right now.
If you are feeling any sort of anger or offence about what you have just read, then re-read it because you definitely need to hear it again!
Take Charge of your life now!
Taking immediate responsibility for your own circumstances in life means whatever happens from today on, you will approach every event objectively. From now on, you will ask yourself. What did I do to get this outcome? What was I thinking to attract those circumstances, What did I say or not say to make that person respond the way they did. What can I do now to get a different outcome?
The great news is that taking full and immediate responsibility for your circumstances puts you in the driver’s seat of your own life. It puts you in charge of where you can go and you will begin to analyse the outcome of every event that happens in your life. Whilst you may not have complete control over some of the things that happen in life, you do have the complete control over what thoughts you think, how you react and the choices you make about what happens – and those thoughts, reactions and choices are what will create your next set of circumstances. It’s you who are in charge of these things – and you always have been, whether you realised it or not.
It’s all about YOUR Choices
Everything in life is based on the choices you make. The choices you made in the past are the reasons for the situation you are in right now, be it positive or negative. And now it is you and you alone who are responsible for every decision you make in your life and every direction you choose to take. To think otherwise is to refuse to take responsibility for your life. The thoughts, actions and responses are the choices that will affect your future and your life is the result of the choices you make.
If you want to create a life that has everything in it you could ever want, then you must stop making excuses for yourself. This means not playing the victim, if someone does you a wrong or blaming events or people for preventing you moving forward towards your dreams.
The truth is that you chose the thoughts that have put you where you are right now. It doesn’t matter why you made the choices as that’s in the past, so decide right now to stop making excuses for the things in your life that are not or have not gone the way you wanted them to.
There are only two options – make progress or make excuses!
Most people have the bizarre idea that you can keep repeating the same behaviour over and over while somehow expecting to achieve a different result. The reason you have the life you have now and the things you experience now is because you keep repeating the same ways of thinking and behaving. If you want different results and your life to improve or change dramatically, then you must start thinking and behaving differently from the way you have been doing so far.
As the saying goes “If you continue to do what you’ve always done you’ll get more of what you’ve got!”
That’s why you are where you are in life right now and why you’ve got what you’ve got. You are repeating the same thoughts processes and decisions.
People who don’t take 100 percent personal responsibility for their lives end up working for those who do.
In summary, everything you do is based on the choices you make. It’s not your parents, your past relationships, your job, the economy, the weather or your age that is to blame. You and only you are responsible for every decision and choice you make!
From today, decide to take 100 percent responsibility for everything in your life. If you catch yourself being negative and anything, stop immediately. Decide right now to make changes to the ways you respond to the events in your life and start talking positively about what you can do and will do.
Give yourself permission to walk away from anything with bad vibes and trust your inner voice. You don’t need to explain or answer to anyone!
Acknowledge today that only you are responsible for attracting the right people and circumstances you desire into your life and decide to make this the day your life really begins!
If you don’t like something, change it! If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it!
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